[He shouldn't tell her, it's not baggage she needs to have-]

It is a small detail, I know. But sometimes those small details matter. Something like 'taking the time to learn a foreign name that is difficult for you to pronounce' can seem like a small detail, but to the person with the difficult name it can mean 'you work with that man every day and remembering his name is a very bare minimum level of respect you could show him'.